Home
About Me
 Hindu Wedding Ceremony
 Wedding Information & Tips
Some Good People
Contact Me

 

Personally I favour the many principles that Hinduism has to offer, and I do not decry other faiths at all. I have three special beliefs that come from Hinduism and other faiths.

The Meanings of the rituals are absolutely critical in this day and age.


The rituals state in no uncertain terms that we should have some respect for all living things.

 

 

If it is peace, love, and respect that we are trying to instil in our wedding vows then this is difficult to do where the Priest has to explain and filter this through noise. For one thing it is extremely difficult to concentrate.

Practising total silence throughout the wedding is equally difficult, children will play, and people will talk but generally a peaceful environment can be maintained for a reasonable period of time also. This is within our gift.

Of course we should not forget our culture and there is wonderful meanings within some of our wedding songs and there is something quite beautiful in the traditions of Indian women singing wedding folk songs also.

But what music really gives serenity to a wedding? Well, it is this music that is simple and instrumental, and it can be Indian as well as Western music that achieves this goal.

There is a tremendous expectation upon the Priest to "control" the crowd. Having provided a service, I feel this can be rather unfair. As a Human Being I can only control my own attitude and behaviour, I can perhaps influence the behaviour of others, but I cannot control others, nor should I be expected to do so. Guests should consider the purpose of their attendance at a wedding.

My view is simple, we are their for the bride, the groom and the parents; we are there to celebrate the coming together in marriage of two individuals. And we can do this with a little respect for the couple.

A Priest who demands silence can come across as "rude" and "arrogant" and guests do not expect the Priest to behave instructively. There are many ways to make a wedding a serene experience. Guests perhaps can be clear on what is expected of them. So how can we achieve this? Simple things like ensuring there are enough seats for everyone, and separating the Dining area from the Wedding area can actually make a difference.

Ushering guests who are standing and directing them to Chairs is an equal consideration. And finally numbers…. I have no idea how one Priest can direct 700-1000 guests.

As we move forwards into a generation that seeks questions, and that wants to attain some spirituality for a short time, on their wedding day, where spirituality is important, then we as people attending the wedding can do our part in making this journey a spiritual one.

In Hinduism there should be no colour, no status or cultural caste system dictating who is at the top and who is at the bottom of the structure. Those days are gone. Everyone is equal in the eyes of good. God forbid the belief in untouchability, for there is no such thing. Either we are Humane or we are not, either we are equal or we are not.

Marriage is a personal choice, some Indians will marry Indian people and some will marry non Indian people, but all these people have one thing in common, the soul, that special spark in each and everyone one; for love has no colour nor divide. Peace……