It is important to think about the questions you may wish to ask for sure. But please bare in mind I have boundaries, and with good reason. One cannot demand from a preacher, for a preachers role is to facilitate a message. The invitee’s role is to take part and listen to the message. In this section I will try and deal with some of the very frequent questions I am asked.
Can we come and see you performing your role at someone's event?
No. The gift of inviting a prospective invitee to another's event falls upon the parents at each event, not the preacher. Personally, I don't think it is right to want to view a preacher in this way. I call it window shopping and some preachers conduct this but I cannot.
Do you have a DVD we can see of you performing your role?
Sadly not one couple will give me a copy of their DVD and allow me to show that to others. Difficult one. Do we ask the same of preachers in other faiths. Have faith. Prayer is about hope and love. That's how prayer is.
Do you conduct silent weddings?
Peaceful weddings aren't a new phenomena. They are possible but in order to do this all the factors that affect peace must be considered and everything must be done to ensure a serene environment. For further understanding do read the testimonials and consider spending a moment looking through the images on this website. The images speak for themselves as to the type of environment we create and my conduct.
Do you provide your own music?
There are preachers who recomend their own family members or others to provide ceremony music, and such entitites are run as an addition to. Some view such offers as professsional as they say everything is timed.; others view timed operations as too systematic, too similar and none free flowing.
Do you colour co-ordinate your outfits with our decor?
Can you share with us what you are going to say during the ceremony?
No. Would we ask this of any other religion.
Do you say anything during a cermony which is gender specific?
I vet my words carefully so that I can be gender neutral. I also try and avoid disprespecting other faiths. I am anti racist.
Why did you become a preacher?
I served as a Police officer for 23 years. Having attained the rank of sergeant I have managed teams and delivered in policing, I was also a qualified Home Office Police trainer and training development officer.
Having chaired the Leicestershire Black Police Association twice and represented Leicestershire on the national committtee I have also written extensively professional articles on Human resources, police race relations training, Human Resources, Race tribunals and book reviews.
I became a preacher as a matter of a role handed down. This is a very humble requrst. Please think about the type of questions asked and that people don't cross the line in this respect.
Please do undstand that we give up mostly weekends for events. That's alot of our time for others events. There are unsocial hours and long days; very often back to back. Plus when we travel to events there is travel time and risks.